40zen or 40been?

So – this is it – always thought it rather cool - 30 in 2000, fast forward and now it is 40 in 2010 – world cup and all! and twice the number of Jacob Zuma offspring yes world our president has 20 children!

Anyways – I am starting a blog to muse a bit about the meaning of where I am at right now. 

Almost 40 – practically middle-aged yet I feel strong and full of life and have so much I want to do and AM doing – horse riding, running my first 10kays, raise global conciousness, explore cost cultural stuff, have much better sex more often, save the planet, the industry I work in, the list goes on … including AT LONG LAST having a Valentines worth remembering. My most memorable to date – my dad leaving a card for me in high school – newsflash – the smartest girl gets no cards … but she does get better travel opportunities in the long-term

Anyway I digress – sorry -
middle-aged, child free, man free, independent – very happy and content at the mo.

BUT how come everybody assumes you are dying of loneliness OR hate men and the worst – ag shame, she has no children and at this point it practically excludes you from almost any female group.

Picture it – “Hi, do you have any children?” (potential new friend, contact whatever) – answer – “No” – the veil comes down over the eyes … practically a non-woman – add to it divorced and most married women will NEVER add you to their must invite to dinner list …

Excuse me! I have had it with this attitude. There are many single child free happy people in this world.  Just the other day while buying my new running shoes the sales rep actually says I look 30 and he thinks it’s because I do not have kids. Mind you, he thought he looked 40 (he didn’t) and he is actually 55.

Do not get me wrong – I think it is wonderful to procreate and frankly would love a happy extended family circa my childhood – but – NEWSFLASH – this does not happen for everybody.
Often not by choice as we  as a species function in a 2×2 way -
2 adults 2 children = 4 
dinner evenings – 2 x 2 couples …

Anyway – I guess what I am trying to say is that there should be a voice for mature people who are not married or in a relationship and do not have children and may never have. And are happy and content nonetheless.

THUS I have decided to get on my soapbox and start spawning my brand of 40zen wisdom. Why the hell not.

Happy Valentines Day to all! We will see – is it 40zen or40been? Or am I fooling myself and should really be looking for a man and have kids before my ovaries collapse?

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~ by 40zen on February 14, 2010.